Posts Tagged ‘communication’

Frontline Prospective On Child Custody Law

Friday, April 13th, 2018

Working under Matthew Poole, a saying that I hear almost every day in the office is: “if everyone was reasonable, child custody lawyers would be out of a job.” As the main individual who handles calls to our office, I can tell you from first-hand experience that this is true. Working in a family law office can definitely show you the bad side of good people, and the people that call our office are usually in situations where tempers and emotions are high. As the person in our office who handles the majority of these calls, my perspective is that there are things that people can and should do to both save money and to help their situation in the long run.

From the start of my employment here, I noticed some commonalities between the variety of different calls we would receive on a daily basis. The main commonality in every call that we have received is lack of communication between the potential client and the person they are having issues with. If I could give any advice to those in these situations it would be that communication is key. There are so many situations where if the two people could just put differences aside and start a conversation with one another, it would save them so much heartache and money. After an extensive case study on custody matters, our office has found that 25% of people agree to settle their case with the same agreement that was offered to begin with. This shows that if the two people could just communicate without getting attorneys involved, they would not waste thousands of dollars on litigation; giving them more money to spend on the child.

I understand that communicating in situations like divorce and child custody can be tough. But in those circumstances, particularly when children are involved, being able to talk to the other side is vital. For instance, being able to have an open dialogue with the other parent in a child custody case can and will make it easier to deal with them later on down the road. Even though it’s hard, it would be so beneficial for the children if their parents were able to talk and communicate with each other about the children’s needs. It’s not easy for someone going through something like this to shelf their emotions and be the first one to reach out and start a dialogue, but in all honestly it is the best course of action to resolve their issue. To put it simply, every dollar spent on a lawyer could be spent on the kids. Why waste resources on litigation when simple communication could resolve the issue and leave that money available for the child? Doing so would dramatically decrease stress and replace it with tranquility. Just remember, the happier that a parent is, the happier the child will be.

Price is certainly something that most potential clients are sensitive to, and therefore we encourage all of our clients to attempt to talk with the other side as much as possible. Communication can help iron out many of the problems present, and can lower costs greatly for both parties. We understand this can be tough in a situation where there was a falling out of a once caring relationship. Unfortunately, there are times where starting a conversation is next to impossible and getting an attorney involved is the only option. If you believe hiring an attorney is your only avenue of relief, call the Law Office of Matthew S. Poole. We will do our best for you when communication has broken down in your relationship to get you a fair result.

Written by J. Tyler Cox, J.D. Candidate, Mississippi College School of Law, Class of 2018.

What does “custody” really mean?

Wednesday, July 19th, 2017

You’ve probably heard it before: “I have full custody of my kids” or “I have legal custody” or “He has physical custody of the children” or “We have joint custody of our child.” All those mixing of terms can make child custody confusing, but it shouldn’t be. Child custody in Mississippi is awarded in two ways – “legally” and “physically” – and can be combined in a number of ways to fit the best interest of the child.

Legal custody” pertains to the rights bestowed upon a parent to make decisions of health, education and welfare of the child. “Physical custody” describes the time a child resides with a parent. When parents use “joint custody” to describe their custody arrangements then the court has granted both parents shared rights of custody either physically or legally or both. Generally, parents with “joint physical custody” equally share physical custody of their child and it is exercised every other week. “Joint legal custody” means the parents share in the significant (i.e., not whether the child needs a band-aid) health, education and welfare decision making of the child, regardless of which parent has physical custody of the child at the time decisions are made. The right to share all of the child’s official records is presumed and paramount. Parents might share joint legal custody while one parent has physical custody or parents could share joint physical custody while one parent has legal custody. It should be noted that good communication between parents is paramount to the court’s consideration of whether joint legal custody is in the best interest of the child. Even if the court determines that both parents are equally capable of making legal decisions in the best interest of the child, poor communication between the parents typically results in the Chancellor arbitrarily designating one parent as the sole legal guardian of the child.

Each child custody case is different as evidenced by the many combinations of legal and physical custody, however all custody cases are decided using the same polestar determinant: What is in the best of interest of the Child?

If you or someone you love has questions about their child custody issues then schedule a consultation with the Attorney Matthew S. Poole. Matthew has over a decade of experience representing parents in divorces where child custody is the central issue and in child custody modifications.