Mississippi Family Law Attorney Shares Divorce Tips for Parents of Toddlers

Divorce can be difficult for a child of any age. Fortunately, it is possible for parents to help their children understand and adjust to the changes in their family situation in such a way that the divorce does not have a negative impact on them. Toddlers can be confusing to parent whether you are in the midst of a divorce or not. Many of them can speak quite well, which might fool us into thinking that they can comprehend much more than they actually do. Their moods can fluctuate wildly at a moment’s notice. They are tiny people who are doing so much learning about the world and about themselves every day.

Caring for toddlers, as you know, takes a great deal of emotional and physical energy. All toddlers, whether their parents are divorcing or not, need a great deal of time with each parent for bonding and attachment. When one parent leaves the home, toddlers can feel abandoned, and can express their feelings of abandonment through regressive, needy behavior. Parents can work together to create a parenting schedule which gives each of them a lot of time with their toddler, so that they can sustain the bonds that they have created and avoid long separations.

All children who live in families who are divorcing must be informed of what will be happening before it happens. Children like to know what to expect, and knowing that a parent will be moving into separate quarters before they actually move can help children prepare for their departure and adjust to the new living situation once it happens. Of course, explanations should be age-appropriate and based upon what you have observed your child’s level of understanding to be. For toddlers, this means simple statements and plenty of reassurance that you and your soon to be former spouse love them, and that the divorce is in no way their fault. Less is often more as far as these conversations go, because toddlers require short and simple communications. Don’t forget to ask them if they have any questions, and to provide honest answers to any questions that they do have.

With toddlers, as with children of any age, it is important that you talk about your feelings about the divorce with other adults, so that you do not find yourself expressing those thoughts and feelings to the kids. Also, it is essential that you refrain from criticizing your child’s other parent in front of them. They love both of you, so if they hear one parent speaking poorly of the other, they may begin to feel hurt and confused.

When you spend time with your toddler, it can be very calming and reassuring for them if you follow their established routines. The same goes for rules and discipline. The positive effect that consistent routines, rules, and discipline can provide for your toddler is well worth the additional effort that may need to go into discussing these topics and agreeing on them with your soon to be former spouse. Morning struggles to get ready and fights at bedtime and mealtime are just a few of the things that can happen less frequently at both your home and the home of your soon to be former spouse when discipline, rules, and routines are consistent.

Mississippi Family Law Attorney Matthew S. Poole can help you understand the divorce process, and he can help you work through it every step of the way. Please call our office at (601) 573-7429 today, to schedule a free, initial consultation.

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Mississippi Family Law Attorney Shares Divorce Tips for Parents of Toddlers
Mississippi Family Law Attorney discusses divorce tips for parents of small children.