How to Get Un-Stuck When Divorce Negotiations Break Down

If you are going through a divorce, there may come a time when you feel stuck, as if you are unable to make any forward progress in negotiating with your soon to be former spouse about how the divorce should be settled. Fortunately, there is a way to get un-stuck so that the conversation can resume. After all, settling a divorce is often quicker and results in better outcomes for both parties than litigation would provide, so why not try to get past that invisible barrier that is preventing you from moving forward in your divorce negotiations.

In case you are wondering how we know about that invisible barrier, it is because many clients encounter it as they move through their divorces. The clients who can get past the barrier often go on to settle their divorce cases, while those who remain stuck behind it usually proceed to litigation.

The invisible barrier that may be holding you back from fully engaging in the process of negotiating an outcome to your divorce may actually be more of a question than an actual barrier. The question often sounds something like this: Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?” Choosing one response may keep you stuck, while choosing the other is likely to help you move forward.

Sometimes, it is easy to become so concerned with being “right” that you lose sight of what it is that you are trying to accomplish. For example, you may be trying to resolve your divorce in a way that will leave you with a comfortable amount of money to live off of when you retire. However, if you were hurt by your spouse, such as in the case of a marriage that ended because of an affair, you may decline to accept a proposed settlement offer from your soon to be former spouse which would provide you with a very generous portion of his retirement benefits in exchange for forgoing alimony, simply because you want to make him pay the maximum price for hurting you. You may feel as though it is not fair that you would have to choose between receiving alimony now and receiving a generous amount of retirement benefits later on. Unfortunately, your attachment to what you feel the result should be could prevent you from agreeing to a settlement that would give you exactly what you say that you want out of your divorce.

In contrast, when a person chooses to go with an option that will make them happy, even if that means that they cannot claim that they are “right”, they are likely to accept a settlement offer that will help them to accomplish the goals that they have stated that they wish to achieve through their divorce. If you have come to a standstill in your divorce negotiations, try asking yourself whether a need to be “right” is holding you back from accepting a settlement offer that would meet your needs.

While your Mississippi Divorce Attorney cannot make decisions regarding proposed settlement offers for you, they can help you to analyze whether a particular offer will help you to accomplish the things that are important to you. To find out how Mississippi Divorce Attorney Matthew S. Poole can help you navigate the divorce process, please call our office today, at (601) 573-7429 to schedule a free consultation.

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How to Get Un-Stuck When Divorce Negotiations Break Down
Mississippi Divorce Attorney discusses tips for getting through breakdowns of Mississippi divorce negotiations.