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Mississippi Divorce Attorney Shares Tips for Turning Your Divorce into a Fresh Start

Friday, April 10th, 2015

Divorce is, by definition, the end of a marriage. However, when a marriage ends, each spouse is able to decide what it is that they will begin. Somewhere in between all of the sadness, anger, hurt, and other emotions that you are feeling, there is likely to be at least a small amount of hope for the future. One way to ensure that your divorce will become known to you as the beginning of something great is to focus on that hope and find ways to make it grow.

While you are going through your divorce, and, actually, after your divorce as well, it is important to surround yourself only with people who are kind and supportive. No one else has ever gone through your divorce before, so no one is an authority on what you should or should not be doing except for you. For some reason, though, many people just can’t help themselves when it comes to offering unsolicited advice, along with plenty of judgment and criticism, to people who are divorcing. If you find that there are people in your life who do this, you may want to politely yet firmly excuse yourself from their presence. If you do need advice, seek it from the appropriate professional, like an attorney or a counselor, or from a friend or family member who you can trust.

Depending upon the reasons for your divorce, your self-esteem may be somewhat damaged. Fortunately, you can rebuild your appreciation for who you are and how you look. Taking time to care for your mind and your body are good ways to show yourself the appreciation that you deserve. Exercising, reading about things that interest you, and developing your personal style are just a few of the many ways that you can celebrate who you are.

Career changes often accompany divorce, and this can be rather intimidating. If you look for work that is interesting to you, you may find opportunities for learning and growth that can provide more than just a steady paycheck. Good work can be hard to find, so if you cannot find a job that you love right away, do not give up hope. Find a job that will pay the bills, and do good work for your employer. Keep looking for an opportunity that interests you, and when you find it, pursue it.

When it comes to the legal aspect of your divorce, it is important that you seek the assistance of a knowledgeable Mississippi Divorce Attorney. Your attorney can help you to understand the options that are available to you in your divorce, and they can help you to decide what it is that you want to accomplish through your divorce and pursue a resolution to your divorce that will work well for you as you move forward. If you have questions about divorce in Mississippi, please call Mississippi Divorce Attorney Matthew S. Poole at (601) 573-7429 today, to set up a free consultation.

 

Mississippi Family Law Attorney Shares Divorce Tips for Parents of Toddlers

Tuesday, March 24th, 2015

Divorce can be difficult for a child of any age. Fortunately, it is possible for parents to help their children understand and adjust to the changes in their family situation in such a way that the divorce does not have a negative impact on them. Toddlers can be confusing to parent whether you are in the midst of a divorce or not. Many of them can speak quite well, which might fool us into thinking that they can comprehend much more than they actually do. Their moods can fluctuate wildly at a moment’s notice. They are tiny people who are doing so much learning about the world and about themselves every day.

Caring for toddlers, as you know, takes a great deal of emotional and physical energy. All toddlers, whether their parents are divorcing or not, need a great deal of time with each parent for bonding and attachment. When one parent leaves the home, toddlers can feel abandoned, and can express their feelings of abandonment through regressive, needy behavior. Parents can work together to create a parenting schedule which gives each of them a lot of time with their toddler, so that they can sustain the bonds that they have created and avoid long separations.

All children who live in families who are divorcing must be informed of what will be happening before it happens. Children like to know what to expect, and knowing that a parent will be moving into separate quarters before they actually move can help children prepare for their departure and adjust to the new living situation once it happens. Of course, explanations should be age-appropriate and based upon what you have observed your child’s level of understanding to be. For toddlers, this means simple statements and plenty of reassurance that you and your soon to be former spouse love them, and that the divorce is in no way their fault. Less is often more as far as these conversations go, because toddlers require short and simple communications. Don’t forget to ask them if they have any questions, and to provide honest answers to any questions that they do have.

With toddlers, as with children of any age, it is important that you talk about your feelings about the divorce with other adults, so that you do not find yourself expressing those thoughts and feelings to the kids. Also, it is essential that you refrain from criticizing your child’s other parent in front of them. They love both of you, so if they hear one parent speaking poorly of the other, they may begin to feel hurt and confused.

When you spend time with your toddler, it can be very calming and reassuring for them if you follow their established routines. The same goes for rules and discipline. The positive effect that consistent routines, rules, and discipline can provide for your toddler is well worth the additional effort that may need to go into discussing these topics and agreeing on them with your soon to be former spouse. Morning struggles to get ready and fights at bedtime and mealtime are just a few of the things that can happen less frequently at both your home and the home of your soon to be former spouse when discipline, rules, and routines are consistent.

Mississippi Family Law Attorney Matthew S. Poole can help you understand the divorce process, and he can help you work through it every step of the way. Please call our office at (601) 573-7429 today, to schedule a free, initial consultation.